One of the Good Ones

It is so easy to take our loved ones for granted.  In particular, the ones that live side by side with us every day.  Husbands.  Mothers.  Fathers.  Children.  They're always there--dropping dirty clothes on the floor by the hamper.  Leaving dirty dishes in the sink.  You see them with bed head, unbrushed teeth, pajama pants suitable for a flood.  You lose your temper over silly things, pick fights when you're feeling emotional, turn a cold shoulder in the face of an apology.  They see you when you're sick, vulnerable, imperfect.

And then the dirty laundry is washed, folded and put away, and the floors around the hamper are bare.  The dirty dishes piled up in the sink are all your own.  You brush your hair, put on a pretty dress, and go out, then come home to pajamas and an empty house.  You lose your temper, and there's no one there but yourself.  No one else to listen, to bear the brunt of your emotions when it's impossible to keep them inside.

Those are the times you realize how lucky you are.  How rare it is to find a person who will love you despite the dirty laundry.  Despite the stupid arguments, the neediness when you're sick, the flannel pajamas, the rumpled hair.  Or maybe because of the arguments, the neediness, the pajamas, and the hair.  That being there through all of those moments is so much more important than being there when the clothes are perfect, the evening fun or romantic, the conversation scintillating.  How important it is to have someone who knows when you need to be left alone, and when you need to be held.Or knows when you just need to hear, I hope you're feeling better.  I'll be home to take care of you tomorrow.  I love you.

Comments

[Sara]

Oh my goodness that is the sweetest!

It's true though, we have to be careful we don't take them for granted. It's always work no matter what for any relationship: marriage, friendship, siblings, parents, etc.

[Julie]

Awww...that made me get all misty! So sweet. I've got one of those good ones, too and I hope, I hope, I don't take him for granted too much.

[Melissa]

It's so true. How are the most important people in our lives the easiest to take for granted? I'm so blessed to have a wonderful man to share my cranky, bad-hair pajama days with. I hope your good one gets home soon!

[katelin]

this is just so sweet and so true. it's so easy to forget and take it all for granted.

[Kate P]

Tomorrow! That's one of your favorite words. :)

[A Super Girl]

I do love the good ones. We're so lucky to have them.

[Jen]

What a sweet post - thanks for the reminder to be grateful for our loved ones!

[Emily Jane]

This is so touching... and something I definitely needed to hear today.

[Solange]

I have so many good ones in my life. Thanks for the reminder!

[Melissa]

Love this!

[Molly]

So sweet!
And the color of those roses is totally beautiful.

[Brittany E.]

So sweet. You are so lucky to have one of the good ones. Your pictures looks like it is glowing!